Every day there are good news stories if you take the time to look. As a matter of fact, our lives are primarily good news stories. However, when I say good news, many of you will hear ‘fabulous and extraordinary’ rather than good.
So, just to enumerate some of the good news in my life:
- I have a job.
- I have eaten today and will again before I go to sleep.
- I have a sheltered place to live and sleep which I call my house.
- I own that house. Well that’s an exaggeration. The bank owns my house, but you know what I mean.
The list goes on and on. I am a walking, talking, rejoicing pile of good news. I suspect many of you are in this same sad situation as I.
Sad, because when asked how we are, more often than not, we have a litany of complaints, some real most imagined:
- The weather is too hot, too cold, too wet, too dry.
- The geopolitical situation is desperate.
- Taxes could go up.
- I didn’t win the lottery.
- I did win the lottery.
Again, the list is endless. How is it then, that in a period in time where it is scientifically provable that we are living longer, better and with less effort than any group before us, we complain about that very life?
My answer is choice. In a different time where you had only one thing, that is what you used. When you got to choose this or that thing, you were delighted with the option. Now, however, when you have ten, fifty, thousands of options, it’s not fun anymore. It’s hard and overwhelming work to make a choice. And no matter what you choose, you have a nagging suspicion that you could have done better, gotten a better deal or made a wiser choice.
So perhaps one possibility for you to consider is to limit your choices and see if you don’t improve your life. Make some decisions in advance of your choice. If you are going to buy a shirt, decide before you go. “I’m going to buy an off-white, linen, short sleeved, button front shirt.” Go to the shirts store and buy that and leave. Don’t look at all the other shirts that you “could” buy. Just get the one that you came for. Don’t imagine how much better you’d look in a different shirt. Don’t think about what the possible improvements to your life might be. Just buy the danged shirt and go home and wear it.
Ah, the peace that will sweep over you as you de-choice. Try it. Let me know if it works for you.